We as moms are juggling so many things on our plates. And sometimes we may feel that things have been unfair. Many of us don’t feel appreciated like no one sees how much we do and how tough it can get. And a lot of us have to do it all alone. We are facing troubles with finances, work-life balance, sleep deprivation, mom guilt, relationship strain, and more. But we will still do what has to be done for our kids.
I want to address this post not just for sahms but all moms.
- Stay-at-Home Moms (SAHMs)
- Working Moms
- Work-from-Home Moms
- Single Moms
- Divorced Moms
- Blended Family Moms
- Moms of Special Needs Children
- New Moms
- Expat Moms
- Moms of Multiples
- Military Moms
- Empty Nest Moms
- Foster Moms
- Stepmoms
- Caretaker Moms
To all the Moms who are Facing Struggles
How often do you experience those feelings?
Exhaustion, disappointment, irritation, frustration, worries, and guilt. How about feeling overwhelmed and stressed? Sometimes it may feel like it’s just part of motherhood and it’s an everyday feeling. Every situation is different.
Some moms have experienced the heart-wrenching pain of losing a child. Some of us have faced the harsh reality of eviction and homelessness. A lot of us face medical challenges in our health or that of our precious children. This is a harsh reality for some. But just because your situation is quite good and you may have it better than someone else, doesn’t mean you are not allowed to struggle and complain about your situation. Your feelings are valid.
Have you ever heard those quotes when sharing your motherhood struggles?
- But at least you have a husband. I have to provide for my kids all by myself
- Be thankful you have a healthy child, my kid has special needs.
- You have only one? How can you struggle with one child? I have triplets
- You went through so many IVFs to have this child, why can’t you appreciate it now?
I feel those comments just make us feel even more guilty. We have beautiful children and yet we complain. Are we ungrateful? Are we worth of what we have? Do we appreciate the good things? Am I even good enough to be a mom? I should just get it together you may think. But it’s ok to feel down. Motherhood is demanding and overwhelming and today’s society has some much expectation of women. But we don’t have to be superwomen to prove our worth to anyone!
Struggles are not just reserved for certain people. And it’s ok to not be ok even if you have it all:
- You have a husband
- You have only one child
- You have family support
- You have money
- Your child is healthy
Don’t let those comments get you down. They are not easy to listen especially when coming from your loved ones. But some people just don’t know any better. They may think they are helping by saying these things and keep you motivated and appreciative. Try to find more supportive people with whom you can share some struggles and won’t be judged for.
To those who tell you “It gets easier”… Worse times are not just for chosen stages of motherhood. Different stages equal different struggles. When your child is a newborn, toddler, or young adult you will always face some challenges that may make you miserable. And if you think you will finally take a mental break when your kids have their own families… Well, think again. Maybe it never gets easier, but we just become more resilient.
Encouragement for Struggling Moms
In the silence of your struggles, I see you and admire you. I don’t have any golden advice for you. I won’t be telling you cliché “ask for help” or “it will get better”. Yes, if you feel that things are getting out of hand, ask for help, talk to your doctor, or call a friend. It may get better but life is tough and there is no guarantee. Some of us have been struggling with addiction, homelessness, depression, and chronic illnesses most of our lives. It can get worse before it gets better. I just want to give you some encouragement in those tough times.
- Your commitment to motherhood matters and makes a difference.
- You are stronger than you know
- You’re not alone. There’s a bunch of us who can relate
- Your love and dedication are the foundations of your family
- Give yourself credit for the countless tasks you manage
- Your love can be a guiding light in the darkest moments
- Your resilience is inspiring and commendable
- Don’t compare yourself to any other mother
- Trust in your ability to adapt and overcome
- It’s okay to vent, to cry, and to admit that things are tough
Takeaway
Remember, you are an incredible mom, and your journey is uniquely yours. Struggles will not last forever. They come and go. Each day, you contribute to the growth, happiness, and well-being of your kids. You have to be there for them. I recognize the strength that resides within you and believe you will overcome those uneasy times.
